Mistakes women make when dating
No need to force the issue or try to foretell the future. Unloading past relationship baggage By the time you begin dating as an adult, you have probably had your heart broken a time or two. We vow to learn from past wounds and never let it happen again. Talking about past relationships, and all the ways in which you were mistreated, invites old ghosts to join you on your date.What was supposed to be a quiet, romantic dinner can suddenly seem very crowded.Give it a chance if you’re being too closed and if you have the opposite problem, get grounded quick. I have this friend who was in a relationship and every time she was around this guy, her voice got several octaves higher. I tried to tell her that she wasn’t herself around him but until she let me and other friends into her bubble, she couldn’t see it. I don’t really need to tell you why this is a bad idea, right? I recently read that the majority of Christian marriages break up because of “irreconcilable differences” which could also mean selfishness. Otherwise you may end up in Disappointmentville, population: you. Get accountability with a friend who can help give you an objective perspective about your relationship. Many of us don’t want to submit to another when we’ve gotten so used to the independent life.
And any mistake in early dating is much more likely to lose you an otherwise great partner.That’s why I have a passion for talking about relationships, dating, and helping women navigate the process.When Dave asked me to write a blog about common mistakes that I think women make, I was excited to share my thoughts.We just say that we aren’t because we’re afraid of rejection and disappointment. And then my roommate told me to stop pretending that I wanted to be single for the rest of my life and told me to take an active role in my own dating life. Second, you don’t have to know if you’re going to marry a guy in order to go to coffee with him and if you do already know, the rest of us want access to your crystal ball. On the flip side, you never know what you’re going to learn about yourself, your preferences, or a guy unless you go out on a date with him.It may even take 2, 4 or many dates before you know if there’s a possibility of something more than friendship. The problem with dating in a bubble is that you may not be yourself in your relationship, but you’re so emotionally involved in the relationship that you can’t see it for what it is. Bring a few trusted Christians into your process and they will help you with wise counsel as you make decisions about your future.