How dating works
According to the Pew Research Center, a majority of Americans now consider dating apps a good way to meet someone; the previous stigma is gone.But in February 2016, at the time of Pew’s survey, only 15 percent of American adults had actually used a dating app, which means acceptance of the tech and willingness to use the tech are disparate issues.
Each date, I got to practise meeting a stranger and getting over the initial inevitable awkward moments, then settle into the fascinating process of learning about someone new.
We bank and order groceries online; we send texts rather than talk. Yes indeed, the relationships and sexuality expert found herself single after a long-term relationship ended (go figure). I live in a small community where it seems like all of the eligible bachelors are my patients! So with a great deal of skepticism, I tried the online dating thing.
We may seem more connected-but we’re actually more isolated than ever. Forget going to the bar, honey; get thee to thy laptop. I had some fun, met some good men, had a few lousy dates-and, most importantly, I survived.
But on that first date, clearly I did not match the mental image he had formed during our emails (ouch).
When he dropped me off, I said I would see him for the concert and joked, “unless I get a cowardly email” (women’s intuition! His email arrived at midnight and began with “Well, here’s the cowardly email….” Sure, I felt stung, but I took him up on his offer to use the tickets; I took my sister with me to Pearl Jam and we rocked a girls’ night out. Going out a couple of times does not mean you are “going steady”!