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I suspect that outing it openly like this will get me in trouble with both men and women.
Men won’t like being reduced to generalizations (I am sure there are men to whom this doesn’t apply), or they will assume that women are wired the same way they are and that I am somehow calling them out for being human.
But I don’t think any of those things are the point.
It has been popularized by all kinds of media, including iconic books and movies.
I tried to explain that for women, it’s entirely different because it’s something we can turn on and off. Truth be told, more often than not, I don’t even notice men’s bodies unless the man is especially fit or attractive. I thought I understood that some men ogle women, that most men like to look at attractive women and that men frequently think about sex. Sure, some of the time those interruptions might be welcome, but the men I asked about this said that more often, they are powerful distractions that keep them from achieving their goals, completing tasks or focusing on what they want to.
When I was un-partnered, I noticed men more frequently, but if I had to put a number on it, I’d say maybe five times a month. The truth is I drastically underestimated the extent of all of those things. Because for the most part, I’ve been with good men. My initial reaction to this book was revulsion (and maybe denial at first, because you gotta have a little denial in any honesty soup), followed by insecurity, and finally an attempt to understand.
The book opens with a detailed description of a day in the life of a typical man, how his eyes are drawn like magnets to look at women’s bodies and the near constant white-knuckling determination it takes to keep from openly staring.
The authors describe how these images are both annoying interruptions and pleasurable distractions to men at the same time.