Dating when youre septated
For example, if you are in counseling together, it is best to refrain from dating others until counseling concludes and you have a final decision about your relationship.”Being separated usually means no longer living in the same household--often temporarily.
But for couples who do not live together, separation can also mean spending less or no time together for an agreed upon time.
I know this is difficult to accept, but I believe the present trend of open dating immediately after separation must be deterred.
Such activity encourages and contributes to the increasing divorce rate. Develop friends, but refuse romantic involvement until the fate of your marriage is determined.
The innocent new friend can be deposed by the other side’s lawyer (that is, asked questions that are taken under oath and recorded by a stenographer or even videotaped) and subpoenaed to testify at trial.
Divorcing clients are often lonely and stressed out, and they may be longing to meet someone new, feel desirable again, and just have fun.
So, many clients decide that just one date can’t hurt.
It absolutely shocks me when I see the photos of the new boyfriend or girlfriend before the divorce is even final.
This article was co-authored by Klare Heston, LICSW.