Dating too soon
“It usually means you’re feeling brave enough to risk being brokenhearted.It’s normal to feel ready one day and not ready the next. Sometimes we need to lean into the fear instead of allowing it to dictate the direction of our lives.” After experiencing heartbreak, it’s not uncommon to be afraid to start dating again, because it can feel like you’re signing yourself up to get hurt all over again in the future.
Keogh agrees, suggesting that therapy may be a better alternative to embarking on a new relationship, if grief is severe.
Dating too soon after this type of loss is a recipe for disaster, notes Schwartz.
If the partnership ended in abandonment, you may also fear getting close to someone new.
“Take time to reflect on the attributes your ex had that worked for you and that didn’t,” Yannotta says. This will bring you a sense of empowerment and focus and will steer you towards a healthy, lasting relationship.” Before you burst back onto the dating scene, it’s important to check in with yourself and make sure your heart is healed enough to handle the many ups and downs of dating.
“Write these down in two lists (positive characteristics and negative characteristics). Pay attention to the signs you might not be ready to start dating again, like if you still text your ex when you’re drunk or cry yourself to sleep when you think of the breakup.