Dating a woman from an abusive relationship
It shows the relationship as a whole and demonstrates how each seemingly unrelated behavior is an important part in an overall effort to control.
Following the Violence Wheel is an explanation of each abusive behavior. It often begins with threats and intimidation that may escalate to physical abuse.
Something will happen to trigger the physical and sexual attacks and threats. Why do they have such a need for power and control?
The woman hopes that the relationship will change, knowing that it didn't begin like this. During this "honeymoon period," the abuser might apologize, blame the woman or other circumstances, promise to change, or give gifts. Some people will tell you that it's because they have a domineering personality, or low self-esteem, or a bad temper, or because they see women as possessions, or because they abuse substances.
Relationship abuse is a pattern of behavior used to establish power and control over another person through fear, intimidation, and power. Abuse occurs when one person believes that he or she is entitled to control another.
Tension begins to build in the relationship when the abuser starts criticizing, yelling, swearing, and using angry gestures, coercion, and threats--often threats to kill her and her children or her family.
The woman fears that the threats will become a reality but feels helpless to do anything about it.
It is an effective method for gaining and keeping control, and there are usually no adverse consequences for the perpetrator of the abuse.
When the abuse occurs within an intimate relationship, such as marriage, dating, or family, the abuse is often referred to as domestic violence.